Are you a human doer or a human being?
You make a call11
As for me, I consider myself a human being first and a human doer when I need to be. I prefer living my life from the inside out, associating with my innermost self, and disassociating as much as possible from this fast pace, chaotic, confused outer world.
So, what are the differences between being a human doer and a human being?
The Human Doer
We find ourselves pushing ourselves to do, do, do, and do more and more and more at a faster pace. It seems like human nature to want to fix our lives physically, such as by changing jobs or relationships, but any outside change is temporary and doesn’t address the root of the problem.
Financial struggle is one example. Anyone who has ever had trouble making ends meet will understand how challenging it is to feel at ease and peaceful when there is clearly not enough in the checking account.
In relationships, many of us spend a lot of time and mental energy feeling angry with people or victimized by the way they treat us. People often don’t do what we expect of them. So we find it easier to end the relationship in hopes of finding “the one” who will meet our expectations instead of changing the relationship from within ourselves.
We deal with the outer world using our conscious, left brain, ego-controlled part of our mind to make sense of what is happing around us. We use our senses, what we hear, taste, touch, smell, and see, to receive stimuli from the outer world for our interpretation. As an individual, our perception of what is happening at any given time differs from the next person—somehow forgetting about the true self in the process. Why do we do this? Because a part of us values producing, creating, and “doing” more than resting, relaxing, and restoring.
I am not alone on this one. Does a part of you believe that “staying busy” and “being productive” is one of the most important things for you to be doing? A group of people would answer yes. When we are productive, it causes a feeling of being important. The truth is, we get the opportunity to do some amazing things when we’re effective. Helping others with our gifts is a good thing. Frankly, it’s amazing all that one person can do and create when that person can develop a mindset. Whether it’s your family, your friends, your co-workers, or your clients, when you show up powerful, it has an impact on people.
And here is the thing
“Doing” is ingrained so deeply in most of us that to stop doing and slowing down and not “do” is one of the hardest things to accomplish. With constant doing, the problem is that you miss out on untapped resources of creativity that actually come from “not doing.” When you continue to show up powerful and follow that energy, you forget that sometimes you need to be powerless, another equally-important power.
The Human Being
We may need to set an alarm to remind us that our true power comes from the inner self, our innermost “being.” That part of us operates from the subconscious part of our mind, the right brain. It is that part of our brain that we access the truth of who we are as human beings. Our intuitive nature, peace, calm, insight, and awareness lie there. You cannot access these traits with your busy ego-driven left brain. The left brain is the monkey mind, or chatting mind, it is doing and busy until you go to sleep at night, and some people have difficulty shutting down at night and entering into a good rest.
The inner self is like the plants in a garden. Once you plant the seed, you must water it, expose it to sunlight, and pull the weeds. Likewise, you have to plant the seed to relax, give it silence, stillness, and focus for it to produce the peace, calm, and guidance available to everyone.
The late Dr. Wayne Dyer explained it perfectly when he said, “I am a human being, not a human doing…You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t”.
It is said “to “Be” still and know that I am God,” and that “you can “Be” transformed by the renewing of the mind.” Now that is it in a nutshell.
In order “be,” one needs to focus their attention on the truth; you must learn how to stop, be silent, be still, and focus on your breathing for a while. Do nothing, is mindfulness meditation. Self-love is, “Being in the present moment.”
While growing up, someone taught you to tie your shoes, ride a bicycle, and so on. But were you ever really taught how to love yourself? Just as you are? It’s one of the most important awareness we can have and need. And most of us don’t know how to love ourselves truly. The thing is, without self-love, you’re more likely to eat the wrong foods. Marry the wrong person, and end up in the wrong career.
With the true love of self, you become a powerful force that makes life better for everyone around you and everyone around you. Too. Self-love isn’t some optional thing we can “get to” when the time is right. It is the foundation we live on rather than existing and going through the motions.
Without true self-love, relationships, finances, and careers all fall apart. Self-love is the glue that keeps our life together.
In summary, we have to be a doer sometimes because we all have to deal with the outer world as we live. However, we need to be aware that there is more to life than doing all the time. The other side of the coin is learning to stop, be silent, be still, and do nothing for a while as you focus on your breathing. That is the truth for you to realize.